If you have “been yourself” and I have punished you in any way, next time you might think twice about showing this side …
And my choice is: do I want to live in a humanity (or neighbourhood) that:
a) seems like one I like, with lots of hidden aspects
b) shows itself as it is
?
The price of b) is discomfort while staying curious and might be a muscle I haven’t really exercised much yet … and so helpful are “supportive structures” like principles. Now, if principles are forced upon me, I will want to go away. So we wanna introduce them as an opt-in: “in this place the following principles apply … please weigh them carefully … should you find them acceptable, you are welcome to enter”
Good places to exercise are principle-based events like Burning Man or other “burner events”. Easiest, quickest and cheapest is probably a conference where the venue is prepared and hosted for the participant to bring the programming, i.e. “unconferences” or “open space conferences”.